Stumped and Horny in Chicago

My girlfriend and I have been together for a year and a half and she is always complaining that I never do anything nice for her any more. We haven't been intimate in a couple of weeks either... what should I do?

This is a common complaint from both men and women who have been in a long term relationship. At the beginning both are on their best behavior and caught up in new love and romance. The longer that the two people are in a relationship the more comfortable they are together and those little things tend to fade. When you first started dating, I am sure you bought her flowers, opened the door for her, and maybe even cooked her dinner. Go back to the way things were when you first became a couple.

Women want to be romanced and seduced, after a year and a half and even after ten years. The main thing to remember, for both men and women, is to never stop the romance, the seduction, or the appreciation for the person you are with. Big gestures are wonderful, but the day to day appreciation for your significant other and the small things are what is important to a lot of women.  It's not just buying her flowers or candy, it's more than that. Do the dishes for her when she cooks you dinner, bring her soup when she is sick, and rub her shoulders after a long day.

If you want intimacy, you have to keep the connection and love between you alive. Make her dinner, or order in if you aren't a cooking connoisseur, light some candles, give her a massage and tell her how much she means to you. Do all these things and she will be eating out of the palm of your hand in no time.  

If you have any questions for me or any funny stories you would like to share, Email me at shiloh@intimatepassions.net.