My boyfriend and I have been talking about trying something new. I am
kinda curious about trying anal but my girlfriend has tried it and says it
hurts a lot. I want to try it but im scared, do you have any suggestions on
what I can do?
Lots of people are curious about the idea of trying anal and it can be very scary and intimidating. There are a couple of things you want to remember when trying anal sex. It can be a very rewarding experience, but like most things it isnt for everyone. I am a firm believer in the you have to try it at least once scenario. It is very normal to be scared of trying something new, especially when a friend has had a bad experience with it. Here are a few things that may help you.
1. Use LOTS of lubricant, when you think you have enough, use more.
2. 2. RELAX! The more tense you are, the more the muscles will tense, relax and trust your partner.
3. 3. Don't start out with full on penetration, start with one finger, then two, and so on and so forth.
4. 4. Go slowly, it will hurt if you don't go slow and take your time.
5. 5. Use a condom, and do not have vaginal sex without him washing first, it can cause yeast infections.
6. 6. Pain is your body's way of saying that something is wrong, don't try to mask it and listen to your body. Don't be afraid of telling him to slow down or taking more time.
7. 7. There are small anal toys you can try first if you are really scared that will help "loosen you up".
The most important thing, as with all sexual activities and relationships is trust and communication. This is something new, and can be as scary as your first time having sex. Be open and talk about, and make sure that you trust your partner. Relax and enjoy!
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